Play It By Your Rules

E29 - PIBYR: Why Your Habits Don’t Stick - and What to Do Instead

It’s that time again - fresh goals, new intentions, big dreams.But let’s be honest: most resolutions don’t make it past February.
So… why don’t our habits stick?And more importantly - what actually works?
In this episode, I sit down with Ivan Palomino - behavioral science strategist and unapologetic habit hacker — to unpack the science behind human behavior and habit change.Spoiler: it’s not about motivation. It’s about design.
Ivan blends neuroscience, psychology, and real-life experimentation (including his own burnout and career reinvention) to help you create lasting change — with way less effort than you think.
We covered:
Why we operate on autopilot 90% of the time — and how to use that to your advantage
The 4 brain rules that shape your decisions (emotion, effort, illusion, and reward)
How to build habits by stacking them on existing routines
The difference between rituals, motivation, and capacity
Why your willpower was never the problem
Tiny habits that lead to massive ripple effects
✨ Practical Takeaways:
Pick ONE habit — do it daily for 30 days before adding more
Use immediate rewards and low-effort design to reduce friction
Track progress in ways that create satisfaction (not stress)
This episode is for anyone tired of failing at New Year’s goals — and ready to build change that lasts.
Your life. Your rules. For more freedom, flow, and fun.
Links:🔗 Connect with Ivan on LinkedIn🌐 Learn more at ivanpalomino.net▶️ Watch more on YouTube – Growth Hacking Culture📬 Subscribe to Ivan’s Newsletter on LinkedIn

E28 - PIBYR: Forget the Pitch - Start with Value & Listening: Job Hunting Meets Sales

What if selling yourself didn’t feel fake, forced, or awkward - but natural, connecting on a human level, like meeting a new friend or dating?
In this episode, I sit down with Curt Tueffert, award-winning sales expert, keynote speaker, professor, and “Selling Skills Sherpa” to explore how anyone (yes, including purpose-driven professionals, introverts, and impact seekers) can confidently bring sales strategies into their job search without compromising authenticity.
With 40+ years of real-world experience, Curt shares how job seekers can borrow from the best sales teams starting not with a pitch, but with curiosity, listening, and value.We also dig into the art and science of selling and how to apply both to your career conversations.
We covered:
Why the best salespeople - and job candidates - start with listening
ABC redefined: Always Be Curious
The IMPACT formula for sales success and how to apply it to interviews
Why you must believe in your value before others will
The underrated power of “driving trial” and how pro bono work can open doors
How to speak to problems, not just profiles and make people want to know more
✨ Practical Takeaways:
Start by listening - curiosity builds connection and trust
Know your value inside-out, it’s the foundation of all confident communication
Offer a “test drive” whether it’s a short project, workshop, or bold idea
This episode is for anyone ready to finally have fun selling — your skills, your story, your value.
How to get started?Curt suggests drafting 8 curiosity questions to use when meeting new people - 2 each under the acronym FORM:🟢 Family🟦 Occupation🟣 Recreation🟠 Motivation
Your life. Your rules. For more freedom, flow, and fun.
Links:🔗 Learn more about Curt and his work📘 5 Stones for Slaying Giants and other resources at PeakSalesStrategy.com

E27 - PIBYR: How to Stand Out Without Shouting: Value Whispering for Introverts (and Everyone Else Who Hates Self-Promotion)

What if showing your value didn’t require shouting, hustling, or pretending to be louder than you are?
In this episode of Play It by Your Rules, I sit down with Melitta Campbell - award-winning business coach, TEDx speaker, bestselling author, and the creator of “Value Whispering.”
Melitta teaches a simple and refreshing truth: You don’t need to be louder. You need to be clearer.
And while her approach resonates deeply with introverts, it’s not just for them.If you’ve ever felt awkward talking about yourself, overwhelmed by visibility advice, or turned off by noisy marketing… this conversation will feel like a breath of fresh air.
We dive into:
What Value Whispering is - and why it works better than self-promotion
The real visibility challenges introverts face (hint: it’s not shyness)
Why many “visibility hacks” backfire for thoughtful leaders and entrepreneurs
How to communicate your value without overexplaining or overselling
Melitta’s 3 pillars of quiet confidence
How to build a business - or career - that fits your voice, not someone else’s blueprint
✨ Practical takeaways you can try today:
1️⃣ Name your “why now.” What is the deeper reason behind your work that naturally draws people in?2️⃣ Craft your one-sentence value whisper. Clear. Honest. No hype.3️⃣ Pick one visibility habit that feels energizing - and do it for one week. 
This episode is for anyone who wants to be seen and heard without burning out, pretending, or shouting over the noise.
A quiet confidence approach — for more freedom, flow, and fun.
🔗 Explore Melitta’s work:
Download the first chapter of her new book:http://www.melittacampbell.com/chapter
Website: www.melittacampbell.com
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/Melitta

E26 - PIBYR: Remove the Silencer: From Introvert to Impact Speaker

What if your biggest transformation starts with just 90 seconds of courage?
This episode unpacks how impromptu speaking can help you rewrite not just your script - but your identity.
Tara Gopal Chattopadhyay is a Distinguished Toastmaster, global tech leader, and culture-shifting communicator - and President of the Impact Toastmasters Club in Geneva. He shares how leaving his hometown - and later, his comfort zone - helped him find his voice in every room.
We covered:
Breaking free from the “stay quiet” script of his upbringing — and discovering the power of self-expression
Why Toastmasters feels like walking into a bookstore — everyone is a story waiting to be heard
How public speaking sharpens leadership — from boardrooms to job interviews
Cultural cues and communication: why some teams speak up in writing but stay silent in meetings
Why stories stick — and how emotion beats metrics when it comes to influence
Listening as an underrated leadership skill (and how Toastmasters trains that muscle)
Using AI as a copilot — without outsourcing your originality
✨ Practical Takeaways:
Try impromptu speaking (like table topics) to stretch your voice and spontaneity
Journal longhand — it sharpens your thinking, voice, and self-trust
Let AI be your brainstorm partner, not your ghostwriter - keep your voice human
Your life. Your rules. For more freedom, flow, and fun.
Links:🔗 Connect with Tara on LinkedIn🎤 Join us at Impact Toastmasters Geneva🌐 Find a Toastmasters Club near you
 
From redefining ambition and walking away from the climb, to finding your non-negotiables and building a career with joy and presence - this is for anyone standing at a crossroads and craving more freedom, flow, and fun.
🎧 Listen now on all major podcast platforms. Just search Play It by Your Rules or Meggi Rombach and hit follow!
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E25 - PIBYR: How to Manage Spiky Profiles - Neurodivergence as a Competitive Edge

What if the traits we label as “too much” — too intense, too detailed, too sensitive — were actually your team’s biggest untapped advantage?
In this episode of Play It by Your Rules, I sit down with Xenia Matthies — business psychologist, systemic consultant, and founder of NeuroSynergy® — to explore how neurodivergence can become a competitive edge in leadership and team design.
We dive into:
The many shades of neurodivergence - and why our brain (and nervous system) work differently.
“Spiky profiles”: what they are, how they show up, and why they can be a superpower for teams.
Co-regulation as the next frontier of leadership - tuning into energy, creating safety, and leading with presence.
Moving from awareness to action - building workplaces where everyone can thrive.
The four pillars of neuroinclusion - at the individual, team, and leadership level: self-awareness, co-regulation, clarity, and structural support.
Practical tools like cognitive team mapping and team playbooks - turning inclusion into daily practice.
✨ Practical takeaways you can try todayXenia’s 4 micro-rules for everyday neuroinclusion (or simply good management):1️⃣ Ask instead of assume.2️⃣ Share instead of expecting.3️⃣ Observe before you interpret.4️⃣ Together - rather than against each other.
Because the future of leadership isn’t just about emotional intelligence - it’s about neuro-intelligence.
🎧 This episode runs a bit longer to give space for a deeper dive into concepts such as co-regulation - what it is, how it works, and why it might just be the next leadership frontier. Tune in and see how these insights could reshape the way you lead, live, and collaborate.
 
🔗 Explore Xenia’s work - mostly in German:🌐 Website: www.xeniamatthies.com
🎥 Online Keynotes:
Führung braucht Klarheit (Online recording – paid): Watch here
Abenteuer Neurodivergenz – Mein Survival-Kit für ein selbstbestimmtes Leben (Free): Watch here
📚 Books:
Playbook Neuroinklusion — practical guide to neuroinclusion: Read here
Manifestieren aus dem Nervensystem: Amazon link
Mein Kind hat ADHS – und jetzt?: Amazon link
🎧 NeuroLeadership Podcast:www.xeniamatthies.com/podcasts/neuroleadership

E24 - PIBYR: Forget the Ladder: Why Midlife Is the Ultimate Growth Program

What if midlife isn’t a crisis — but the ultimate leadership accelerator?
In this episode of Play It by Your Rules, I sit down with Aneace Haddad — global nomad, tech-entrepreneur-turned-coach, and author of Soaring Beyond Midlife — to explore why your 40s, 50s, and 60s might just be your most powerful chapter yet.
We dive into:🔹 Why AI is a midlife advantage — and how experience + AI = rocket fuel.🔹 The radical reframe: 50 is the midpoint, not the end — with two-thirds of your career still ahead.🔹 Legacy as presence — creating moments now that echo for decades.🔹 Why answers are cheap, but questions are priceless in the age of AI.🔹 The neuroscience of midlife: slowing in some areas, but gaining a new superpower — comfort with paradox.
✨ Practical takeaways you can try today:1️⃣ Name one identity you’re ready to release — and notice what expands when you do.2️⃣ Swap “having the answers” for asking better questions.3️⃣ Try the 100-Year Prompt: journal for 5 minutes on who you are at 100 — then choose one tiny step your future self would be proud of today.
This episode is for anyone in midlife — or approaching it — who’s felt doubt creeping in. Too late, too slow, too stuck. It’s here to flip that script and remind you: midlife can be your most expansive chapter yet.
🔗 Explore Aneace’s work:💻 aneace.com📖 Soaring Beyond Midlife: The Surprisingly Natural Emergence of Leadership Superpowers in Life's Second Half → Get the book
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E23 - PIBYR: How to Remember Who You Were - Before the “Shoulds” Took Over

What if the real key to success isn’t doing more - but remembering who you were before the world told you who to be?
In this episode of Play It by Your Rules, I sit down with Shivangi Walke - leadership coach, entrepreneur, speaker, and author of Wander Woman. From corporate boardrooms to founding global mentoring platforms, Shivangi’s mission is clear: help people - including high-skilled immigrant women - reclaim their voice and own their unique strengths.
We dive into:🔹 The “unholy trinity” of biases immigrant women face - and how to navigate them.🔹 Why job security is an illusion (and what that means for reinvention).🔹 The biggest lie we’re told about our potential - and how to unlearn it.🔹 What reinvention really looks like in midlife (and why it’s never too late).🔹 Practical steps to reconnect with your true self - and bring that to your work and life.
If you’ve ever felt boxed in by the “shoulds” - too quiet, too bold, too young, too old - this conversation is your reminder: there’s no one right way to live or lead.
🔗 Explore Shivangi’s work:🌍 Thrive with Mentoring💻 shivangiwalke.com📖 Wander Woman
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From redefining ambition and walking away from the climb, to finding your non-negotiables and building a career with joy and presence - this is for anyone standing at a crossroads and craving more freedom, flow, and fun.
🎧 Listen now on all major podcast platforms. Just search Play It by Your Rules or Meggi Rombach and hit follow!
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E22 - PIBYR: Relaunch: Play It by Your Rules – The Story Behind the Name

We’re LIVE under a bold new name: Play It by Your Rules! 🚀(formerly Leadership Insights)
In this special teaser episode, I flip the mic to my voice coach, Helen von Dadelszen, who interviews me about the story behind the podcast rebrand.
We talk about:✨ Why now’s the moment for a rebrand🧭 How I’m embracing mindful rebellion🎙️ What kind of guests and energy you can expect⚡ And why now’s the time to question the “rules” we’ve been handed
From redefining ambition and walking away from the climb, to finding your non-negotiables and building a career with joy and presence — this is for anyone standing at a crossroads and craving more freedom, flow, and fun.
🎧 Listen now on all major podcast platforms. Just search Play It by Your Rules or Meggi Rombach and hit follow!
💥 Curious? Inspired? Ready to claim your space and write your own rules? Let me know what landed in the comments.
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Check out my website: https://mindset-mastery.ch

E21 - PIBYR: How to Bring More Play Into Work; and Set Boundaries That Stick

As we transition from Leadership Insights to Play It by Your Rules, I’m delighted to welcome another inspiring leader for this in-between chapter. And what better topic than Play - fitting perfectly with where this podcast is headed.
This month, I talked with Diego Adame, Head of LEGO Ecosystem Collaboration at the LEGO Foundation. Diego’s career spans P&G, an MBA in International Organization Management, and more than a decade driving impact across sectors from nutrition at GAIN to creating global play initiatives at LEGO. Our paths have crossed more than once, and I’m thrilled to bring his story to you.
What stands out about Diego? His conviction that work should have space for play, and for boundaries.
In this conversation, we dig into:
The power of play - why it matters not only for kids, but also for adults, workplaces, and leadership.
Boundaries as non-negotiables - from keeping a private phone to deciding what you will - and won’t - compromise on.
Environments that enable or disable you - from incentive structures to toxic cultures, and why leaders must shape spaces where people thrive.
Challenges with clear outcomes - how defined goals at work or in sports help you build confidence and resilience.
A practical exercise for transitions - track what sparks joy for four weeks to clarify your own non-negotiables.
It’s a conversation about designing work and life on your terms - through play, clarity, and courage.
💡 Whether you’re navigating a career shift, figuring out your non-negotiables, setting boundaries at work, or stuck in an environment that drains you—this episode offers clarity and practical tools to move forward.
🎧 Listen now on Play It by Your Rules (formerly Leadership Insights) on all major podcast platforms - or search Meggi Rombach and hit follow!
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E20 - PIBYR: How do you trade comfort for courage—and build a life that actually lights you up?

This month, Leadership Insights is becoming Play It by Your Rules  - and we’re kicking things off with a guest who’s done exactly that.
I’m talking to Erik Cooper—adventurist, leader, and trailblazer who walked away from New York agency life to help run two of the craziest horse races in the world.
Erik lived my wildest dream: the Mongol Derby, a 1,000 km race on semi-wild horses across the steppe. Today, he’s part of the team managing the Derby and Gaucho Derby, and the founder of Erik Cooper Adventures, leading remote horseback expeditions through Mongolia and Patagonia.
But this isn’t just a story about horses. It’s about risk, responsibility, and redefining what matters.It’s about facing fear, choosing freedom, and daring to live life on your terms.
In this episode, we talk about:
Why he left behind comfort and certainty in New York
What riding 30 horses in 10 days taught him about mindset, emotion, and grit
How near-disasters shaped his leadership and decision-making
 
Why embracing discomfort is essential for growth
How to take bold steps—even when you don’t have it all figured out
Whether you’re sitting in an office, plotting your next pivot, or just feeling stuck - this episode will challenge you to think braver, live bolder, and reconnect with what truly matters.
Practical, real, and a little wild—this is exactly what Play It by Your Rules is all about.
Tune in if you’re curious about:
Making unconventional life choices
Managing risk and finding your edge
Reinventing your career or life - your way
What leadership actually looks like when the stakes are high
Choosing discomfort with meaning over comfort without joy
Explore Erik’s world + follow the Mongol Derby live this week:📸Erik Cooper on Instagram
🐎The Mongol Derby 2025 - Race News
What rule are you ready to break?
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